From popular apps like Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge to niche platforms like Singles with Food Allergies, Ugly Schmuks, and Mullet Passions, it seems there’s now a dating app for everyone.
But regardless of your app choice, one thing’s for sure – you should never send these messages.
Experts from FindingTheOne.com surveyed 1,000 singletons about the messages they hate to receive online.
Topping the list is a basic ‘hey’ or ‘hi’, which a whopping 78 per cent of users said they despise.
Acording to the survey, it’s also wise to avoid cheesy pickup lines, as these could put off 59 per cent of singletons.
‘It’s incredibly difficult to show your real personality through text,’ explained Sylvia Linzalone, dating expert at FindingTheOne.
‘Tone can be completely misunderstood, jokes fall flat, and often people either overthink their messages or put in no effort at all.
‘That’s why so many singles end up frustrated. Real chemistry happens in person, not in a message thread.’
For the survey, FindingTheOne asked 1,000 UK singles about the online messages that are most likely to kill the mood.
‘Hey’ and ‘Hi’ topped the list, followed by the dreaded ‘You up?’, which was loathed by 72 per cent of respondents.
Singletons were also sick of bland small talk, with ‘how are you?’ hated by 65 per cent.
While you might be tempted to try and flatter your match, ‘hey beautiful’ or ‘hey handsome’ are best to be avoided, according to the results of the survey.
And ‘I never usually message first’ turned off nearly half (48 per cent) of those polled.
Beyond opening messages, the survey also found that poor spelling and grammar was a huge turnoff for 61 per cent of respondents.
Meanwhile, 38 per cent said they dreaded receiving a stream of emoji, or ‘dead-end’ replies like ‘k’ or ‘lol’.
If these are usually your go-to openers, don’t panic – help is at hand.
Regardless of your app choice, one thing’s for sure – you should never send these messages (stock image)
Dating coach Hayley Quinn has revealed the first messages you can send on a dating app to get a positive reply.
‘Be unique! If 99.9% of guys say one thing – what can you possibly say that will make you stand out?’ she wrote on her website.
‘This isn’t just about the topics you introduce, it’s about the tone you write the message in.’
Instead of saying ‘How was your weekend?’, Ms Quinn suggests something like ‘OMG how is it Monday’, ‘ or ‘When your alarm went off this morning did you think ‘”wow that was a great weekend”?’
‘Both message examples are asking the same thing, but one is much more unique. It all comes down to choosing to phrase things differently,’ she explained.
Introducing the element of challenge can also make you seem more sincere, according to Ms Quinn.
‘When people are agreeable to the point of being sycophantic, it can come across as insincere: like you’re trying to get into her favour because you want something,’ she said.
So, instead of saying something purely complimentary like ‘I really like your look in these pictures! You have a great smile too. It’s also really cool you’re into yoga!’, you could say ‘I like that you’re so focused on health and fitness. Do you ever ditch the yoga and do trail running or hiking?’
‘These examples still give some praise and acknowledge what you have liked about her from her profile but they show that you’re not just there to please her, and have your own independent world of fun stuff to bring her into,’ Ms Quinn explained.
Finally, if the profile doesn’t have much information on it, Ms Quinn says you have three options.
You could write something that prompts them to give you information, such as ‘So tell me something I’d have never guessed about you from your profile?’
Secondly, you could be cheeky and say something sassy about the lack of information, like ‘Something about your profile isn’t adding up…’
Or, you could pick up on something from their pictures, such as ‘Is that Santorini in the background? I’m doing some island hopping this summer but doing Asia as I have a pad thai addiction issue.’
‘Notice how in nearly every example I’m giving I’m encouraging you to share a detail about your life as well as asking something about her. This helps your messages to feel balanced, and builds intrigue about your life,’ Ms Quinn added.
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